Create a balanced, meaningful, and equitable relationship
without rigid gender roles
Challenge outdated gender norms, advocate for yourself, and shift the dynamic for good.
Sharon Costanzo
RLT & Gottman trained relationship coach
I believe in drastic, lasting change
I’m not here to sugarcoat or tiptoe around unhealthy gender dynamics. I call them out—and offer real, practical solutions to change them.
I don’t believe in having the woman in the partnership lean into her feminine so the man can “step up” and magically rebalance the relationship.
I believe relationships can change. Dramatically and for good. I focus on true partnership. Creating a dynamic that’s mutually fulfilling, respect filled, and enjoyable for both partners.
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How I work
Relationships are complex
There are 100 small forces shaping the dynamic of your marriage and my secret sauce is uncovering the gaps that are keeping you from the relationship you want.
With a direct yet deeply compassionate approach, my work is influenced by:
The Gottman Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work - Proven strategies for lasting connection
The Relational Life Framework (created by Terry Real) – breaking dysfunctional patterns
Together, we’ll uncover those looping patterns and mental stories that are keeping you where you are so you can improve communication, feel connected despite your differences, heal past hurt, and move toward a relationship that’s fulfilling and equitable.
I grew up seeing men and women as different. And I didn’t really like how it felt.
With 3 brothers, in Utah, as part of the LDS church– I was given some very direct information and unspoken messages about how men and women are to behave. I watched my mom give up her career aspirations because her role at home took precedence over her personal goals.
Then, when I got married at 27, I found myself struggling with similar expectations. Even though my husband and I are both ambitious and independent, he still expected me to take on a more traditional role at home, in addition to my full-time engineering job.
I saw the resentment my mom held the toward the expectations placed on her as the default parent and homemaker and I knew I didn’t want that for myself.
I didn’t want to accept “good enough” from a good man—and quietly build resentment in the process. I wanted to break the cycle. I wanted a relationship that truly worked for both of us.
As a new coach, I thought I wanted to help moms balance career and family.
I started my coaching journey focused on helping moms juggle it all—without burning out. But as I worked with my clients, a deeper issue kept surfacing. Their marriages weren’t set up for true partnership. Their spouse wasn’t stepping up as an equal partner and they felt stuck doing everything.
I hesitated to help them with that because that was the issue that almost ended my marriage. I shared this with my business coach. And she completely shifted my perspective and approach on how to create a more equitable marriage with my husband. A much bigger breakthrough than any couples therapist had been able to offer.
At one point, my marriage was filled with tension, conflict, and hostility. Now, we have a loving, functional partnership. And not only did we get there—we’ve been able to maintain it.
Shifting my marriage
then helping hundreds more
Creating a more equitable marriage wasn’t easy.
Despite being a strong-willed engineer, this was my first time setting real boundaries and asking for accountability. It was messy. We even separated for a short period of time because I was firm in what needed to change and he wasn’t there yet.
I felt a lot of pressure to accept things. After all, my husband was a good guy with a good job. He wasn’t abusive. Maybe I just needed to “be more feminine” and let him “be the man.” F*ck that. None of that sat right with me. I wanted something more.
And once I figured out how to get it—I knew I had to help other women do the same.
You can create lasting change in your relationship
Hint at the fact that you discovered the secret...
...the solution, the result of all this suffering, and now
you are on a mission to help others just like you!
WHAT WE DO
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